Friday, October 9, 2009

Go to hell Lady....

Husband and I had the strangest situation to deal with yesterday. For the last few weeks we have been playing around with names in anticipation of finding out what sex baby is. We had pretty much settled on both names for a boy and girl.

Since Husband has found out we are expecting a boy, he has been referring to the baby by name and whilst on the phone to his mother yesterday, was yakking about the “Ferrari Car” he wants to buy for Baby.

Husband’s mother went berserk about the name we had chosen saying that it meant dark in personality and that every time we call our son we are prophesying over him. Well, to say I was both flabbergasted and annoyed was an understatement.

Husband and I had checked the meaning of the name first obviously and the name only refers to “Dark haired OR Fair haired” No where did it say dark or evil or spawn of satan or whatever. As if that was not bad enough, she then said she will call her grandson by another name when she is around him and outright refuses to call him by his name.

I think this is bizarre. Last time I checked Husband and I were the parents to be and not his mother. In my opinion, one can name your child whatever name – the way you choose to raise your child and the values and morals you instill in your child will guide him whilst growing up.

This whole situation does not sit well with me and is hurting Husband.

Watch this space…..

Tay

6 comments:

momcat said...

Stick to your guns on that one. My mom didn't like my choice of my elder son's name, Dael as she thought it sounded American. I persisted because I didn't really like boys names and I had my heart set on that name. I was stubborn and amazingly my Afrikaans husband and his family had no problem with any of my English names! Baby is your child and hubby needs to stand up for his right for you and him to name your own child. Your mother in law should be adult enough to know not to interfere with your decision. Just say I'm sorry you dont like the name we've chosen but that is the name we like and we dont want to hear any more negative feedback about it.

momcat said...

Or else - don't argue, just listen and then change the subject to avoid arguments. If they ask say you're still deciding and don't tell anyone anything until baby is born. Families!!

Tay said...

Thanks Momcat! Must say it really put a dampner on things and made the relationship between Husband and his mother very strained - her own fault! I am certainly sticking to my guns on this one.

Nice to know someone else knows the feeling and luckily Husband is supporting my view as well!

po said...

Yeah, stick to what you want. My gran objected to my mom's choice of name for my sister, but she got over it quickly.

angel said...

Thats really a little extreme...
I also had flak over my knucklehead's name because of that bloody movie, but it eased over time.
I hope she can get over herself.

Laura said...

Mother in laws, can't live with them, can't live... with them! haha! I hope you've found another name you like or are happy sticking to your guns with the evil one you did choose ;)